My four-year-old son hates his name and now it brings up bad memories for me too – is it too late to change it?
Choosing a name for your child can be difficult as it is a choice that both you and them will live with.
But what really happens when you get it wrong and your child is miserable with the name you have assigned them?
Taking to Mumsnet, one woman, thought to be from the UK, shared how her four-year-old son hates his name so much so that she no longer cares for it either.
Taking to the parenting forum the woman divided the opinion of many when she asked if she should continue to call her son ‘Jake’.
She said: ‘My son (4) hates his name. He says it’s boring and he has actually cried about it.
Going further she revealed that the name ‘Jake’ doesn’t hold happy memories for either her or her son and asked if she should legally change it. Stock photo
‘He was named for my cousin and also has the same name as a close family member. He says he wants his name to be his own name and not somebody else’s.’
However she went on to admit: ‘I also really don’t like his name, it isn’t anything awful (Jake).
‘It wasn’t my first choice and his dad decided on it, his dad is no longer in our lives and every time I say it I’m reminded of his dad.’
Going further she revealed that the name ‘Jake’ doesn’t hold happy memories for either her or her son.
She continued: ‘His name just seems to have bad connotations. I haven’t told son my feelings towards his name, I always assure him it’s HIS name and it’s lovely but it’s been over a year since he really started hating his name and it hasn’t changed.
‘I thought it was a typical kid thing but it really distressed him.’
However, she asks if she should start calling her son by the name he wants to be called and ask others to do the same.
She asked the forum: ‘Shall I put it as known as “Evan” so that he is called that at school and then if he sticks by this when he gets older we can legally change his name?
One mother has caused debate after revealing how much her son hates his name. Taking to parenting forum Mumsnet she revealed that his name holds ‘bad connotations’ for them both. Stock photo
‘Or shall I keep encouraging him to be called by his real name?’
There was divided opinion over what she should do in this situation.
One person commented: ‘Call him by the name he likes. See how it goes.’
While another suggested: ‘Can you change it to a name similar to Jake. Jacob? Jackson? If not, start calling him Evan and see how it goes. Lots of kids have nicknames.’
A third added: ‘Let him change his name. He seems pretty set on it.
‘I had a friend who did this as a child, parents let her change it and then got it changed by deed poll for her 12th birthday. She never regretted it.
‘Just put “known as Evan” on the school stuff.’